Therapy helps you become more aware of established and sometimes unconscious patterns and behaviours, including how these patterns may both support and limit you, and where they come from; developing the ground for more aware, flexible and satisfying ways of being in the world and responding to others, as well as to life's opportunities and challenges.
The quality of the therapeutic relationship has been identified as one of the key factors in the success of therapy.
A safe and genuine therapeutic relationship offers the ground from which you can get to know yourself and learn to be known, the therapeutic relationship has a particular capacity to support the healing of developmental and attachment wounds.
Wallin citing Fonagy suggests the possibility for secure attachment and healthy relationships comes from; "an intersubjective relationship of attachment that provides first a full measure of affect regulation and then, not unimportantly, a modicum of play in the presence of reflective other", this is the crucible of therapy.
The therapeutic space is a great space to experiment with new ways of being and engaging with others. By trying out new and unfamiliar behaviours (whether subtle or overt) these behaviours can start to become more natural and spontaneous as expressions in your life outside therapy.